TED英语演讲稿：二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译

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when i was in my 20s, i saw my very first psychotherapy client. i was a student in clinical psychology at berkeley. she was a 26-year-old woman named alex. now alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems. now when i heard this, i was so relieved. my classmate got an arsonist for her first client. (laughter) and i got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys. this i thought i could handle.

but i didn"t handle it. with the funny stories that alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road. i could tell, she was right. work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later. twentysomethings like alex and i had nothing but time.

but before long, my supervisor pushed me to push alex about her love life. i pushed back.

i said, with a knucklehead, but it"s not like she"s going to marry the guy.

and then my supervisor said, yet, but she might marry the next one. besides, the best time to work on alex"s marriage is before she has one.

that"s what psychologists call an that was the moment i realized, 30 is not the new 20. yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn"t make alex"s 20s a developmental downtime. that made alex"s 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it. that was when i realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere. there are 50 million twentysomethings in the united states right now. we"re talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one"s getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.

raise your hand if you"re in your 20s. i really want to see some twentysomethings here. oh, yay! y"all"s awesome. if you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you"re losing sleep over twentysomethings, i want to see — okay. awesome, twentysomethings really matter.

so i specialize in twentysomethings because i believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.

this is not my opinion. these are the facts. we know that 80 percent of life"s most defining moments take place by age 35. that means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s. people who are over 40, don"t panic. this crowd is going to be fine, i think. we know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you"re going to earn. we know that more than half of americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30. we know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it. we know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35. so your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options. so when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain. it"s a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become. but what we hear less about is that there"s such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.

but this isn"t what twentysomethings are hearing. newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood. researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence. journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like true. as a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.

leonard bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time. isn"t that true? so what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, extra years to start your lifehave robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.

and then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this: know my boyfriend"s no good for me, but this relationship doesn"t count. i"m just killing time.or they say, a career by the time i"m 30, i"ll be fine.

but then it starts to sound like this: almost over, and i have nothing to show for myself. i had a better résumé the day after i graduated from college.

and then it starts to sound like this: my 20s was like musical chairs. everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down. i didn"t want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes i think i married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30. where are the twentysomethings here? do not do that. okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. when a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s. the post-millennial midlife crisis isn"t buying a red sports car. it"s realizing you can"t have that career you now want. it"s realizing you can"t have that child you now want, or you can"t give your child a sibling. too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room,and say about their 20s, i thinking?

i want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.

here"s a story about how that can go. it"s a story about a woman named emma. at 25, emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis. she said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadn"t decided yet, so she"d spent the last few years waiting tables instead. because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition. and as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even harder. she often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, can"t pick your family, but you can pick your friends.

well one day, emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sobbed for most of the hour. she"d just bought a new address book, and she"d spent the morning filling in her many contacts, but then she"d been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words case of emergency, please call ... she was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said, going to be there for me if i get in a car wreck? who"s going to take care of me if i have cancer? now in that moment, it took everything i had not to say, therapist who really, really cared. emma needed a better life, and i knew this was her chance. i had learned too much since i first worked with alex to just sit there while emma"s defining decade went parading by.

so over the next weeks and months, i told emma three things that every twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.

first, i told emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital. by get identity capital, i mean do something that adds value to who you are. do something that"s an investment in who you might want to be next. i didn"t know the future of emma"s career, and no one knows the future of work, but i do know this: identity capital begets identity capital. so now is the time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startup you want to try. i"m not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but i am discounting exploration that"s not supposed to count, which, by the way, is not exploration. that"s procrastination. i told emma to explore work and make it count.

second, i told emma that the urban tribe is overrated. best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work. that new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle. new things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends. so yes, half of twentysomethings are un- or under-employed. but half aren"t, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group. half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor"s boss is how you get that un-posted job. it"s not cheating. it"s the science of how information spreads.

last but not least, emma believed that you can"t pick your family, but you can pick your friends. now this was true for her growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own. i told emma the time to start picking your family is now. now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and i agree with you. but grabbing whoever you"re living with or sleeping with when everyone on facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress. the best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work. picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.

so what happened to emma? well, we went through that address book, and she found an old roommate"s cousin who worked at an art museum in another state. that weak tie helped her get a job there. that job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend. now, five years later, she"s a special events planner for museums. she"s married to a man she mindfully chose. she loves

her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card that said, don"t seem big enough.

now emma"s story made that sound easy, but that"s what i love about working with twentysomethings. they are so easy to help. twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving lax, bound for somewhere west. right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in alaska or fiji. likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, one good ted talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

so here"s an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know. it"s as simple as what i learned to say to alex. it"s what i now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like emma every single day: thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. don"t be defined by what you didn"t know or didn"t do. you"re deciding your life right now. thank you. (applause)

译文：

记得见我第一位心理咨询顾客时，我才20多岁。当时我是berkeley临床心理学在读博士生。我的第一位顾客是名叫alex的女性，26岁。第一次见面alex穿着牛仔裤和宽松上衣走进来，她一下子栽进我办公室的沙发上，踢掉脚上的平底鞋，跟我说她想谈谈男生的问题。

当时我听到这个之后松了一口气。因为我同学的第一个顾客是纵火犯，而我的顾客却是一个20出头想谈谈男生的女孩。我觉得我可以搞定。但是我没有搞定。

alex不断地讲有趣的事情，而我只能简单地点头认同她所说的，很自然地就陷入了附和的状态。alex说：“30岁是一个新的20岁。”没错，我告诉她“你是对的”。工作还早，结婚还早，生孩子还早，甚至死亡也早着呢。像alex和我这样20多岁的人，什么都没有但时间多的是。

但不久之后，我的导师就要我向alex的感情生活施压。我反驳说：“当然她现在正在和别人交往，她现在和一个傻瓜男生睡觉，但看样子她不会和他结婚的。”而我的导师说：“不着急，她也许会和下一个结婚。但修复alex婚姻的最好时期，是她还没拥有婚姻的时期。”

这就是心理学家说的“顿悟时刻”。正是那个时候我意识到，30岁不是一个新的20岁。

的确，和以前的人相比，现在人们更晚才安定下来，但是这不代表alex就能长期处于20多岁的状态。更晚安定下来，应该使alex的20多岁成为发展的黄金时段，而我们却坐在那里忽视这个发展的时机。从那时起我意识到，这种善意的忽视，确实是个问题，它不仅给alex本身和她的感情生活带来不良后果，而且影响到处20多岁的人的事业、家庭和未来。

现在在美国，20多岁的人有五千万，也就是15%的人口，或者可以说所有人口，因为所有成年人都要经历他们的20多岁。我专门研究20多岁的人，因为我坚信这五千万的20多岁的人，每一个人都应该去了解那些心理学家、社会学家、神经学家和生育专家已经知道的事实：你的20多岁是极简单，却极具变化的时期之一。你20多岁的时光决定了你的事业、爱情、幸福甚至整个世界。

这不是我的看法。这些是事实。我们知道80%决定你生活的时刻发生在35岁之前。这就意味着你生活的重要决定、经历和突然的领悟，有八成是在你30多岁之前发生的。那些超过40岁的朋友不要惊慌，我想这群人会没事的。 我们知道职业生涯的前XX年，对你将来的收入有重大影响。我们知道到了30岁的时候，超过半数的美国人会结婚，或者和未来的另一半同居或者约会。我们知道人在20多岁的时候，大脑停止第二次也是最后一次重组，以适应成年世界的快速发育阶段。这就意味着不管你想怎样改变自己，现在是时间改变了。

我们知道在20多岁的时候，性格的改变多于生命中任何时期。我们也知道女性的最佳生育时期，在28岁的时候达到顶峰，35岁之后生育变得困难。所以你的20多岁正是了解你自身和选择的时期。

当我们想到孩童的成长时，我们都知道1-5岁，是大脑学习语言和感知的重要时期。这个时期，日常的普通生活，都会对你的未来道路影响巨大。但是我们却很少听到成年发展期，而我们的20多岁正是成年发展期的关键。 但是20多岁的人却听不到这些，报纸讨论的只是成年年龄界线的变更。研究者称20多岁是延长的青春期。记者就引用傻傻的外号称呼20多岁的人，比如“twixters” (twenty-mixters)和“kidults”(kid-adults)。这是真的。作为一种文化，我们的忽视的正是对成年起到决定性作用的十年(从20岁到30岁)。

雷昂纳德·伯恩斯坦说过：要想取得成就，你需要一个计划和紧迫的时间。这是大实话啊!所以当你拍着一个20多岁的人的脑袋，跟他说，“你有额外的XX年去开始你的生活”，你觉得这改变了什么?什么都没改变。你只是夺走了那个人的紧迫感和雄心壮志，绝对没有改变什么。

然后每天，那些聪明有趣的20多岁的人，就像你们和你们的儿子女儿一样，走入我的办公室开始说：“我知道我的男朋友对我不够好，但是我们的关系不算数。我只是在消磨时光而已。”或者说“每个人都告诉我，只要能在30岁的时候开始我的事业，这就足够了。”

但是实际听上去却是：“我马上就要三十了，却根本就没有东西展示。我只是在大学毕业时，有过一份最漂亮的简历。”或是这样：“我20多岁时的约会，就像找凳子。每个人都绕着凳子跑，随便玩一玩，但是快30的时候，就像音乐停止了，所有人开始坐下。我不想成为那唯一站着的人，所以有时候我会想我和我丈夫之所以会结婚，是因为在我30岁的时候，他是当时离我最近的那张凳子。”

20多岁的人呐，千万不要这样做。这个做法听起来有点轻率，但是不要犯错，因为风险很高。当很多事都被挤到你30多岁的时候，就会有巨大压力，在很短的时间内快速启动一项事业，挑一个城市，找到伴侣，生两三个孩子。这些事大多是不能同时完成的，正如研究表明，在30岁的时候，要想工作、生活一步到位，难度很高，压力很大。 千禧年后的中年危机并不是一辆红色跑车。而是意识到你不能拥有你想拥有的事业，意识到你不能拥有你想要的孩子，或者给你的孩子添个兄弟姐妹。太多30多岁40多岁的人，看看他们自己，看看我，坐在屋子里谈论自己的20多岁，“我当时都干么了?我当时都想啥了?”我想改变现在20多岁人的所思所为。